Why judgment of yourself and others is killing your self-esteem when you judge others you’re judging yourself. It’s unfortunately much too common of practice these days for us to cast judgment upon others.
This is a fruitless exercise that delivers no rewards and can damage how you see yourself as a worthwhile human being.
When you think about it being judgmental is a way of trying to improve ourselves by knocking others down.
You can feel better about yourself a couple of different ways you can work harder to improve who you are spiritually mentally and emotionally and physically as well.
The act of attempting to become better in some way makes you feel good about yourself whether you succeed or fail.
You recognize that you made an effort and that feels good.
Alternatively, someone may attempt to inflate his or her feeling of self-worth by constantly berating others.
If a person with low self-esteem can bring everyone else around him down to his level then he can enjoy an incorrect feeling of self-worth and accomplishment.
He looks around him to see those he spends time with as equal or inferior to him and his constant negative judgment of these people perpetuates this negative behavior.
Judging others limits their abilities
When you worry about what other people are doing and there’s no personal or business-related need for you to do so. You’re just bringing yourself down.
Usually, we judge others negatively rather than positively. Positive praise when it’s earned is good for both the giver and the receiver.
On the other hand, negative judgment can damage a relationship hurt someone’s feelings and keep you from being the most you can be.
When you judged that someone else is not successful or up to snuff in some way this releases you from the responsibility of trying to be your best.
By knocking that person down to your level you negate the possibility that you can improve in some way by making an effort.
To diminish your abilities when you spend most of your time judging others.
Self-judgment can be bad or good
When you harshly judge yourself incorrectly so nothing but bad can result from the regular self-appraisal is needed for human growth and healthy self-esteem.
You should constantly be judging your actions and behaviors in an attempt to align them with your values and beliefs.
This is a healthy process that allows you to grow as a human being and realize the goals and achievements which are important to you.
The problem comes when your judgment is incorrectly heavy-handed. Don’t just immediately pass judgment on yourself for any set of actions or feelings. Look at the situation objectively.
It could be that you don’t deserve the harsh feelings of self-judgment you’re experiencing.
This means seeing failure as a learning opportunity instead of a declaration of who you are or a boost in self-esteem.
Stop judging others. You can never know the entire set of circumstances or influences that have led to their behavior or current situation.
Make sure you minimize the amount of harsh self-criticism you deliver as well. Neither type of judgment does much for your feelings of self-worth.